With both of these books I realized many valuable lessons. To start, both books use more gentle words throughout to discuss the changes during pregnancy and also in preparation for birthing (not labor which is suggestive of hard physical work and is very daunting!) Since words, thoughts and suggestions can profoundly impact our feelings and responses, it is important to choose words that uplift and empower expectant mums – choose words that create positive beliefs and reactions and leave behind those words that have the opposite effect!
Within these books, the widely accepted terminology used by most care-providers is replaced by softer, gentler, more soothing substitutes – take for example; “I breathe my baby down” (no effortful pushing). Another example; “I trust and tune into my body and to my baby” (trusting the process – after all, our bodies have conceived and grown our babies perfectly so far… of course our bodies know how to birth our babies – we just have to stay out of the mind and let the energy of birth flow through us!)
- Envision the birth you want and rehearse it in your mind, it will soon become imprinted in your brain and in your nervous system! If you would like a quiet, focused, peaceful birth imagine every part of the experience, through every sense; the sounds, the smells, the lighting, the feel of the experience. You may like to include flameless candles, aromatheraphy oils, relaxing music, pictures of loved ones etc. Visualize and rehearse your ideal birth. The Law of Attraction says that you will get what you say and see! (and if you don’t, if for any other reason it happens to go in a different direction, at least you will enter the experience calm and confident.) Be very specific in your visualization. Rehearsing your ideal birth will create a belief in your desired outcome. Just in the same way that a real experience becomes embedded within the memory of the subconscious, so too will your imagined experience – your mind will accept it as real! 🙂
- Write a diary entry dated after the event to positively affirm the experience. Here’s mine:
- Write up your “Birthing Preferences.” Your birth plan or birth preferences is a document that lets your medical team know your preferences for things like how to manage labor pain. Print three copies of your birthing preferences; give one to your care-provider, have one placed in your file and have one copy with you to give to whoever is with you on the day of delivery. In this document, be specific about your preferences. You may want to include things like;
- Please do not offer me pain relief, I will ask if I need it.
- In the absence of any medical indications, we would like to approach the birth with patience. (I don’t believe that labor slowing down or slow dilation are medical indications for intervention, I would prefer to be patient and let my body lead.)
- Please delay the clamping and cutting of the cord.
If you are approaching birth I wish you the most magical experience. Trust your body. Women have been birthing for millions of years, it is an everyday miracle! Tap into the strength you have as a woman and trust the process. Witness your body doing what is is made to do and enjoy every moment! I will let you know when baby Hailey arrives! 🙂
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